The advice to exclude home is good if you're in a garage. Otherwise, depending on your primary concern, you may have options. For instance, you mention not folding mirrors, but I think you can make the mirror folding manual if you want them folded, then you fold them yourself before getting out and unfold them yourself after getting in, but that might take several taps with Tesla's idea of convenience. As for the horn, quite frankly, why do you want it to honk when it locks, anyway? If you aren't concerned about the mirrors being in your way when unfolding and can get over the honking when locking, you could also do nothing other than disable the honking on locking. The mirrors would then be a visual cue that it is locked. Alternatively, if you want the mirrors manual, you could leave your door slightly ajar and listen for it to close as your audible cue that the car is locking itself. Personally, I don't like passive entry anyway, so I don't have these problems, but I would probably deal with it if I didn't have a fob to unlock with. I can definitely see where a phone key would be a challenge for this (vs leaving my fob far enough away instead of keeping it on my person) and for sleep (if the car is waking up every time you get close with your phone, that's not ideal whether it unlocks and honks or not). Not sure if the car would still wake up with passive entry disabled, but like you said, then you'd have to manually unlock with your phone every time.
