This has happened to us several times. It is much worse than scary it is very dangerous. Someone is going to get rear ended with this bug if they haven’t already. Very ironic that there is such a dangerous bug from a company that counts safety as their top priority.
The phantom braking makes for a horrifying driving experience, but I don't think it's as dangerous as people like to make it.
The car slams the brakes out of nowhere, and it feels extremely awful, but you've usually stepped on the accelerator again before a full second has passed.
The TM3 is, by leaps and bounds, much worse on this than the TMS. I can only make assumptions about why, so I'm not gonna bother.
The dangers about phantom braking as I see it is:
* People are driving too close on your tail so you will be involved in a crash
* The person behind you brakes in response, and somebody is tailing that person too closely (I witnessed this happening once, the TM3 sped off and the two other cars were left to deal with insurance. I was in car #4 and managed to brake in time)
* It makes other drivers anxious and try to overtake you and leave you (the cause) behind
* Someone in the car isn't strapped in properly and get hurt. I can't imagine it would be serious injury, though.
I just find it extremely awful, so I don't use it. If I use TACC I will turn off automatic emergency braking (which won't stay off).
Granted, I've only tried adaptive cruise in Tesla (TMS and TM3), Mercedes, VW, Mazda and Hyundai so I don't have the biggest comparison chart, but the phantom braking I've experienced in those aren't comparable to how awful the TM3 is.