We made a little progress this afternoon running through different combinations of circuits then sockets.
The good news is that we can charge, but its a PITA as we can only do this when we turn off a couple of devices in the kitchen to start the charge. I can't remember exactly what permutations definitely works as we got to the stage after a while that us, the car and the circuit board had had enough repeat tripping for the day.
We have a separate fridge/freezer and a small freezer and it would appear that if either of these are plugged in and on when charge starts, the RCD will trip. Can't remember if the plugging in bit is important or whether its just sufficient to be switched off, nor can I remember if the rest of the house was plugged in when we managed to get the charge to start, but all eyes are on these two devices. They are Leibherr so decent make but the fridge freezer is connected to 3 pin via factory fitted euro/uk adaptor, so I will cut that off and fit an MK plug. The freezer has a moulded 3 pin uk plug, however, during a recent episode of nasty transient power cuts, the freezer has not been the same since. Its currently off as its complaining audibly of power failure and I cannot seem to be able to reset.
So progress but no solution.