OK I HAVE THE ANSWER!!! My Wife's iPhone 12 would not stay connected. It continuously dropped or she had to activate her Tesla app over and over to get into the car when she was alone, and then it would disconnect while she was driving causing numerous warnings. Mine always would work because I was the only one that had a Tesla Account. I called Tesla Software Support They had me remove the Tesla app from her iPhone 12. Reinstall it and made a new account for her under her email. Then I sent her a text message from my iphone to her iphone from my Tesla app under "Security and Drivers" allowing her to have her own account. Activated it from that text on her iphone. I then erased her phone from my Y and searched and connected her phone again. I had to use the Key Card during the process of connecting her phone after i accepted the text on her phone. Location services always has to be on for the app. The Delivery Reps at Tesla did not do this. Which caused all the trouble with her phone. It was never set up correctly. Each phone has to have it's own separate account for the same car. That is the fix! Salute!