I feel like we're in the Twilight Zone here. Normal laws of physics aren't coming into play...
If I recall various nuggets from the OP correctly, we have:
* a 50A 120V line coming into each house in a complex of vacation homes
* main panel is a few hundred yards away (can you say "120V line loss"?)
* one of these houses - the OP's - that has:
* an electric water heater
* an electric 20-jet 5-seater hot tub
* a soon-to-be electric charger for a 60 or 85kWh battery-packed car
* some solar panels that are...what?...throwing electrons back up that 50A 120V line?
All in all, this I gotta see. I'll bring the marshmallows.
If I recall various nuggets from the OP correctly, we have:
* a 50A 120V line coming into each house in a complex of vacation homes
* main panel is a few hundred yards away (can you say "120V line loss"?)
* one of these houses - the OP's - that has:
* an electric water heater
* an electric 20-jet 5-seater hot tub
* a soon-to-be electric charger for a 60 or 85kWh battery-packed car
* some solar panels that are...what?...throwing electrons back up that 50A 120V line?
All in all, this I gotta see. I'll bring the marshmallows.