This is directed at nwdiver and it was too long winded and probably repetitive....
Just going to do some back of the napkin calcs.
I have 2 EVs with a little above average mileage. New energy star rated house (not fantastic but better than 90% of existing stock). I have a 6 kw system facing East. I have a tiny South option that has solar hot water already on it. For summer, I would need 3x what I have to be net zero and about 20kwh for average night. Throw in some cloudy days and I need 60 kwh. Long driving and cloudy - 80 kwh.
Ok - that is pretty doable.
Worst month in last 12 was Jan. 1.92 MWh used, 282 kwh generated.
Now for the winter, I need 7x the panels and 500 kwh for cloudy weather. I can't fit 7x the panels (hard to fit 3x - but perhaps possible). Using $100 per kwh (which isn't happening yet), I would need $50k for batteries. And then 40kw in panels at a barely attainable 2$ a watt and I need $80k. So I am at $130k to go off grid. (reality is double that of course).
Oops I still use NG. Not much - $100 a year. But I'll skip that. I charge often at work but I'll skip that too. (I have heat pumps with NG backup, solar hot water has electric backup).
Now I'm sure I could insulate better. Build some double walls and put triple panes in - maybe just add storms. So I could maybe get by on less but I'm being very very nice and allowing NG use and work charging. (Now work charging in the summer is totally free with excess solar - but we are talking winter here).
So off grid is nuts. I pay $200 or so a year for grid access. Another $300 in demand charges. I'm sure that will go up in 10 years and I'm sure batteries and panels will come down. But it will probably be $700 for grid and $90k to go off grid. Yes - I'll generate enough to save $1000 in electric so my true total grid is $1700. That is still a never payback at 10 years in the future. Maybe 20?
Wind is great but that doesn't satisfy the off grid dream. So any argument that off grid is somehow in the future for people makes your logic look wacky. EVs are the grid's dream come true. And so is wind. Now give me a NG fuel cell, cheap NG and solar and I can go off grid. But then I'm using NG instead of wind or nuclear.
Ok back to nuclear argument. If you had any credibility though, off-grid and carbon free took it away. EVs and winter heating make it impractical. I'm betting the 5 houses you took to net zero didn't have 2 EVs and a real winter - or weren't carbon free. I suppose it is possible in an area with zero heating requirement if you don't drive much. But scaling to the entire US - not likely.