I remember talking to an investment buddy I had. When we both first started out trading options. We were reviewing our past 3 month's results. I look at his chart that has a very steady slope up and look at him, then said this: "If you can't make money with a chart like that, what does it mean?"
He didn't need me to spell it out, but some people's temperament is not fit for this whole shebang. You can make money on an up chart, you can make money on a down chart and you can make money on a flatline chart. Most people are hell bent on making money with an upward sloping chart because they were only taught one strategy. Buy low sell high. Yet they don't follow that and instead buy high and sell low.
Maybe buy and hold is not for you, but do you have the courage and temperament to try out the other strategies? Don't blame others. We've all lost money. When I lost money, I blame myself for being stupid and vow to never trust whatever it was I trusted. Ge\ot cynical enough so I started making money.