Cottonwood
Roadster#433, Model S#S37
Do you charge at 40amps? It gets hottest right at the seam where the 14-50 adapter connects to the rest of the charger. So hot that I've nearly burned my hand a few times touching it.
Almost always at 40 Amps, and heat has never been a problem. Take yours back to Service Center for a replacement if it gets uncomfortably hot. That is not normal!! If it is getting that hot, throttle your charge current down to 28 Amps to cut the resistive heating and temperature rise in half until you get a replacement that does not get hot.
P = I^2 * R (Joule's First Law - Wikipedia), where P is power in Watts, I is current in Amps, and R is resistance in Ohms.