Assuming that the car does support Apt/AptX, that would explain why some of us (most likely all Android users with Apt/AptX enabled devices) don't hear any audio problems, while you (with an iPhone, which apparently doesn't support Apt/AptX?) complain about BT's audio quality (as the basic BT stereo audio quality without Apt/AptX is fairly mediocre)
I have always found it odd that you couldn't at least get MPT support for the phone when plugged in, similar to a USB flash drive. More options is always better. Though we know how much room for improvement just basic USB support has currently, so who knows when anything like that or the iPod / iPhone USB support were to get implemented.