I know what you mean, but in all fairness it actually DOES charge from the grid in the US, but only during storm watch mode, and not under user control... so yeah its an administrative restriction.
For all we know, tesla may have this restriction to enable their product to even get the ITC (or SGIP in california). I have no idea, but could see a situation where, if the restrictions were not in place in the product, or were user selectable or something, the ITC wouldnt be allowed for anyone.
In any case, I am interested to see how this actually plays out when the OP completes his install and gets the system fully interconnected and activated. I suspect (but dont know) that tesla will tell the OP " its great that your utility is allowing this, but our product does not do this in the US as of yet". Tesla does not seem to do well with "exceptions" in my opinion... unless you are someone important enough to get elons specific attention.
Op, I would recommend taking a look at that warranty document I linked, since you mentioned that the PW has 10 years unlimited charging, which as far as I can see is incorrect if charged from the grid (that is, if you care about the length of the warranty period, which you may not).
Like I said, really curious to see how all this shakes out, so thanks for the updates OP!