You are never going to get the full picture from anybody. That includes the pro-BEV & pro-ICE/hybrid crowd. And not because everyone is deceptive but because nobody every includes the full numbers or even agrees upon the full numbers. If you were to ask me how much I pay for my 2021 Model Y.. I can tell you that it only cost me $75 more a month to drive than the 2018 CRV I owned before.. if you consider the gas savings. And there is alot of truth to that statement. But what I left out was that I put $5K down, pay $50 more in insurance, paid $500 wall connector to charge it faster and still need to pay $2000 for an electrician to install everything. And thats without any consideration for the cost of tires or depreciation.. or the fact that I dont pay anything for actual electricity (because my wife pays the electric bill lol!!)
The reality is Tesla's in general are very expensive upfront.. with the idea that you will eventually save money in the long run you will save money on gas & maintenance. And that is true for most people and a big reason why I went ahead and pulled the trigger. I would imagine that a $50K Tesla with absolutely nothing down and ignoring anything else.. is going to run most people about $1000/month to drive including just insurance & electricity. As with anything YMMV.. and you could get additional savings depending on cheaper insurance, cheaper taxes, more tax credits/refunds, cheaper electricity options like existing solar installations.
What is also important is value. And yes I do feel like for the EV experience.. in particular the Tesla experience.. I am much happier driving a Model Y compared to driving a dull appliance like the CRV. And that value means the extra money upfront was worth it and I have no regrets. I also expect EV's to grow in popularity and competition.. which means I've already paid the biggest cost upfront.