Some industry standards to require that you join a consortium to get access to the detailed specs (CHAdeMO for example), but Tesla has already released the specs for the NACS connector, so that barrier is not there. As for whether other parties are legally allowed to use it without paying Tesla a royalty or license fee, that's the whole idea behind offering it to a standards body such as the SAE. So in my opinion, other companies can use it for free and they can at least get their hands on the current spec for free, although once it becomes an SAE standard, if modified, SAE may charge a nominal fee to get the spec. For example, they charge $159 to get the official J1772 spec. But once you pay that, there is nothing else you need to pay.
Note that "open source" implies a whole lot of other things (not just whether it's free to use), and no, I don't believe NACS is open source (which would add restrictions as to how it and any derivative works could be used).