After reading the OP's first post, I wondered the same as you (presumably) if s/he was looking for someone to blame. But after seeing the OP's responses, I believe they are genuinely wondering why things happened the way they did.
As for your earlier comment:
I used that word
because it is bantered about frequently. It was a shorthand way to get the idea across. In your hypothetical situation, I wouldn't blame the car either. But I would be asking questions about whether or not the airbags should have deployed.
The OP never asked about the tax credit or how to game the system. That was brought up by others. And there's nothing wrong with trying to limit the financial impact of anything, assuming honest behavior. (Fraud would be a different story.)
As for attacking others, I can't speak for the OP, but I suspect it's more a case of defending their honor against the attacks by the "haters".
"Under a minute" to go from annoying to incapacitating pain. Taking the OP at their word, incapacitating would mean they could no longer choose to do anything about it. I'm sure if the OP had time to avoid the crash, they would have done so.
I'm interested in whether or not the car had EAP and if not, will the OP buy it on the replacement car (assuming they get another Model 3).