In the past I've set scheduled charging and it's worked, but I don't know if I plugged in while the controlled load was on or not.
FWIW, I've used scheduled charging on a controlled load circuit without issue* since taking delivery. I've never had to plug in while the circuit was active to ensure that the car woke up to charge.
* the only issue I had was in the first few days when I set scheduled charging too early, and it presumably triggered before the controlled load circuit was active and then the car went back to sleep. Is there any chance this is what people are experiencing?