I misunderstood your post: I thought that you were saying that. I need to read more carefully; my apologies.
This is what a lot of people don't get: with a solid, well designed, built, and tuned system, you CAN rattle your intestines with a FLAT EQ setting. Yes, I have to have the volume up, BUT even when I do that, my ears are not bleeding.
The purpose of an EQ is to compensate for inadequacies: in the system or in the music. Running a "V" pattern is popular because most systems don't do a good job with the full range, typically with the two ends of the audible sound spectrum (generally, humans can hear in the 20 Hz to 20000 Hz range). What happens is the output starts to diminish as you get towards the highs and lows. It's not (usually) a sharp cutoff, but a rolloff. When you push the V pattern, you are attempting to compensate. Unfortunately, what is usually happening is that (for example) when you want more bass (because the system isn't pushing much below the 60-80 Hz range) and you push up that far left slider, you're increasing the volume in the 80-120 Hz range to trick your ears into thinking you've got more "bass."
If the system is good, then it already gives you what you want when the EQ is flat. THEN you can use the EQ from time-to-time to adjust for inferior source material.
And don't get caught up in the "watts" trap when it comes to amps: not all are the same. Back in the late 80's when car stereo companions were first showing up, I was getting higher SPLs in my under 250 watt class system than some of the guys in the 1,000 watt and up class. The components make a world of difference. When I was reviewing the system I ended up putting in, they gave me a demo of their tweeter (which they designed and had custom built for them), we compared the Tesla pillar tweeter to their replacement and they were able to get 3-5X the output with the exact same signal.