Will be hard for you guys to get apples to apples comparisons unless you know other local owners who can drive on the same roads back to back.
The variability from one car to the next is a conundrum for you guys. It could be manufacturing tolerances on the shocks themselves, which would be a bummer. I wonder, however, if something is up with the assembly side of things. I haven't eyeballed this a ton, but, as an example, when replacing suspension components you generally want to tighten the various bolts on "moving" parts like control arm bolts, when the suspension is under load (i.e. wheels on ground or lower control arm lifted on a jack supporting weight of car) at rest. If you don't you can get suspension "bind" at things like the control arm bushings. While it is commonly accepted that this will slowly destroy the rubber bushings, I think I have read that it can alter ride height and even "spring rate" to an extent (although not sure how much). If the former were true, then it could place the shock shaft slightly out if its ideal operating range (perhaps relevant but maybenot - depends on shock design I suppose) and impact ride/handling slightly. If the latter were true, then the same impact could occur. I would expect both to be noticeable, but not dramatic. JUST A HYPOTHESIS!
The Tesla suspension is pretty basic - not a lot here to work with besides the dampers and basic assembly...