I don't see anywhere that has posted in greater detail, which is why I'm responding to you
I'm also a little fed up of all the fake info that gets spread whether this forum, facebook groups, or otherwise. If people don't know the proper answers then
So this article from the beginning of the year, just a generic news website, doesn't mean this info is correct, but is the first time I have seen anything related to a "third party", but even so this doesn't suggest it is the DNO, most of these smart chargers use a third party app to access the smart features, and as the government document doesn't specify, then I don't know where they get that info from, and it doesn't seem to be enforced. And the fact is I know at least some of the smart chargers available don't have any other method to communicate other than WiFi or cellular so turning of these would result it being dumb regardless if a third party can control it. Obviously there could be some sort of law in the future imposed that you have to have it on, just like a normal meter, but even so the software built into these probably wouldn't be able to work without significant updates, and by the time these sort of things happen, I'm sure there will be a new generation that will communicate to the DNO or whoever to manage this.
Apologises if I'm confusing terms but I actually think if anyone it will be the energy provider that will be enforcing this. Octopus already have tariffs in place that adjust pricing depending when there is a lower demand on the network, and they have some integration specifically with the zappi charger and app for there ev tarrif but no more than that, I'm sure it wouldn't be hard for them to implement something for it to communicate with the charger to charge when there is low demand in the network, but none of these seems to be compulsory, and all of this is opt in.