What you say is true for SL (Standard Load) tires. XL (eXtra Load) tires are rated to carry max load at 42 PSI, not 35 or 36 PSI.Our local service center always pumps the tires to 46psi when you go in for a service. I feel that they do it to maximize range at the cost of comfort. It's part of their MO. 42 is too high IMO.
Tires will support the max load at 35psi. Simple physics.
Performance 21" MICHELIN PILOT SPORT ALL SEASON 4
Long Range 19" CONTINENTAL PROCONTACT RX or PIRELLI SCORPION MS
LR 20" GOODYEAR EAGLE F1 ASYMMETRIC 5 (M+S) or MICHELIN PILOT SPORT EV
All those tires link (at TireRack) to the OE versions Tesla might use, at least for 2023. And all are XL.