So just an update. We drove back from Florida to Texas, the wheels stayed on. I managed to reach someone at corporate Tesla Corporate Resolutions and after explaining how unsafe the vehicle was and that we feel checking the bolts from time-to-time is now on our maintenance list, they felt it was better to just forward us to a service center and have the car fully inspected.
We're not expecting them to pull all of the bolts off the car - as someone mentioned, that would probably create more problems than fixing them. We just want to make sure that anything that can fall off the car is securely tightened to the car and will not "unmount" from the vehicle.
Since then I recommended to the national transportation safety board that Tesla recalled only specific vehicles by Vin # for this issue, but failed to include ours. We asked Corporate Tesla to just provide us with a safer vehicle, and they decided that us pushing to have any/all teslas under 25,000 miles recalled was cheaper than just providing us with a safer vehicle. It sucks, but if it saves your life, or the passengers in your car, you can hate me later. The transportation board takes these things seriously and our car should 100% have been on the recall list.