People have to realize the government is going to get its share whether it's from the pump or the plug. If annual fuel cost for an A4 is $1000/year, then eventually annual cost to charge an EV is going to be a $1000/year.
In this specific case the comparison involves the owner's own (partial) production of electricity. This should lessen the risk associated with changes in energy prices (including taxation). And any flat-roof owner who chooses BEV over ICE has the option to later install solar panels, thereby reducing the energy cost risk.
It is hard to put a money value on some differences. I am on my third (and final) Audi now and I can assure you that Audi(*) will give you a blank stare and just refer you to their new sales department if you inquire about getting that new, cool functionality of the software in your already purchased car. Since Audi is quite conservative I do not expect them to change their policy regarding this. And as the role that software plays in your car gets increasingly important, Tesla's automatic software updates has a significant long-term value - also when it come to a resale. Think about being able to unlock the Model 3's auto-pilot capability just by making a payment to Tesla.
I will not be surprised if Tesla Motors will sell battery upgrades to Tesla owners. For an Audi a reasonable analogy would be an upgrade of the engine. Good luck with that.
One small BEV advantage is that regenerative breaking reduces your expense for brake pads. Especially in the US where there is not a lot of spread in the general driving speeds, you should be able to rely heavily on regen.
So there are many factors to consider.
(*) Living in Germany, I actually deal with Audi, not some dealer.