Maybe firmware in the Model 3 and/or the Chademo needs to be upgraded. Yes, Chademo firmware can be upgraded. It has to be done by Tesla. Call around your local SC's to find out which ones even know about upgrading Chademo firmware, and then have them tell you how to have them do it. (Many SC's don't know about this.)
Maybe there is a Chademo-Model 3 firmware interaction that needs to only be upgraded on one side, or both side, or at certain sides at certain times. Since Tesla is secretive, good luck finding out when and where! I'm willing to try my Chademo out with anyone's latest firmware Model 3 both pre-Chademo FW upgrade and post-Chademo FW upgrade. We'd have to meet twice, since it will take me a few weeks to arrange for the Chademo FW upgrade after our first meeting.