When I restored my HP '66 Mustang and upgraded to the Shelby GT spec I was greatly surprised at how stiff the suspension was, and wow, at first thought I felt I had made a mistake - until I realized that sacrificing a degree of comfort yielded amazing cornering and general handling.
I was surprised to experience the suspension on the new M3, that may even be a tiny bit harsher than the Mustang. What came clear to me is this car is suspended for performance - not comfort.
In a pinch, such as avoiding an accident, performance can make all the difference. I do understand your feelings, but I tend to fault the road condition more than the car. I'm 64, and know the days of the old highway boats that touted a comfortable ride, but my views evolved, and the bumps I could do without, but not the performance.