When has the rest of the industry ever given SpaceX a fair shake?
The space industry has been giving SpaceX hall passes and preferential treatment more or less since they've been a 'real' company. To be fair some entities didn't get actually get on board until SpaceX really started launching things (so, maybe mid-teens), but in general SpaceX has been the darling of the entire space industry for
many years, and that includes both commercial and government agencies. Money talks, The Man desperately wants multiple heavies at their disposal, and launch availability is a cherry on top. Don't let the glut of "OMG can you believe so-and-so is being SOOO mean to SpaceX?!?!?!" chatter skew reality here. Make no mistake, "unfairness" toward SpaceX pales in comparison to the favorable treatment they've been given over the years, and generally falls into a few categories:
1) Self inflicted wounds from either a) giving a *sugar* about existing processes, concepts, and generally 'the way things are done' (= likely the case here), b) leveraging 'never had to think about it that way before' loopholes in said processes (= also a possibility here) or b) wearing the bully pants too tight and getting "spaceX is so mean to us" blowback (= potentially the case here too). Whether honest or Intentionally subversive, none of these are really legitimate to consider as properly unfair.
2) Some politician in control of the money flow Mitch McConnells SpaceX's progress/efforts for the explicit purpose of helping their team. So, while generally less "the industry" and more "someone outside the industry" here (also occasionally partisan appointed officials), its at least proper to call it 'unfair' toward spaceX.
3) Some industry competitor Sidney Powells SpaceX because they're bent their solution very obviously loses, but they still want All The Monies and so fall back on Plan B: Be nefarious, make *sugar* up, and keep it going until you can convince a critical mass of ignorants + decision makers to believe fake news. Again, legitimately unfair toward SpaceX...though again, pretty infrequent in the grand scheme of SpaceX.