I'm pretty much with OP.
I have a P3D. Had hoped for better winter performance. It's not bad, but it's also not great. Not as good as some other cars I've had that didn't cost as much.
I live in Eagle, CO. Ski a lot, 3 or 4 days a week. Grew up in the mountains.
The best car I've ever had for winter was a 2005 Audi S4 Avant. That car drove like it had spikes. Worst was a 9-3 Saab. That car was flat out dangerous. I had an Audi TT that was pretty good, so was my Audi S6 Avant. I sold an Audi A7 to get the Tesla. The A7 was pretty good in the snow.
I've had the car on Vail Pass twice now. Once, in bad as it gets conditions. The other, in average winter conditions (snow packed).
The car has slipped some, when I wasn't even pushing it. That's been alarming. I'll turn down regenerative, try that. Thanks for the tip, OP.
I'm not afraid of crashing, but I am cautious. Like I say, I had hoped for better. It's a 75k car for crissake.
I have Michelins Alpine PA4's. Not because I love the tire, I don't. I've had them before. They're pretty good, but not great. What I like most is they're the only winter tire I know of that comes with a warranty. So, they end up costing me much less than retail -- because Discount Tire usually gives me a credit when I dump them (every other winter) because they didn't wear right.
My choice would have been Blizzak's. Love, love, that tire. It's hard to get 2 full winters out of it, because it's so soft. But I don't care. That tire rocks. We have Haka's on our VW Van, love that tire too. I wasn't aware it was available in a 20? Hey OP. Post a link.
Also, the Michelin was the only tire I could find that fit the stock rims - I just spent 75k on the car, didn't want to buy 19" rims. Although if that what it takes to run 19's next winter, I'll do it.
I'm with OP, the 20's aren't good for Winter -- too wide. Skinnier, but not too skinny, is best.
What I'm really concerned about, is being locked out of my car because the door handles are frozen. That, will piss me off. There's no excuse for that to happen -- not in 75k car, not in 5k car. If people here are letting Elon slide on that one, they shouldn't. I grew up in the mountains. Have never, never, been not been able to open my car door because it was frozen. If I come back to my car after a day of turns and I'm locked out, I'm coming looking for Elon.