There's a difference between deceleration and power that's important to remember. It's the deceleration that we feel and want to control. The power is the limit, but it's only a limit at high speeds. For example, the Bolt EV has a max regen power of 70kW, but in it's highest regen mode the peak decelerations only produce up to about 50kW because the speeds are relatively low. Bottomline, Tesla could change the deceleration profile (to increase deceleration from regen)
without needing to increase the max regen power.
You're describing blended brakes, which have been used in most other EVs since the Gen 1 Volt and LEAF. Here's the off-the-shelf component Tesla could have included in Model 3 but chose not to:
iBooster. The biggest criticisms I've seen, and share myself, of blended brakes are discontinuous transitions between regen and friction brakes that are awkward to predict and control by the driver.
The ABS functions are currently well integrated with regen systems on Teslas and other EVs.