No it isn't.
Solar reduces the customer's draw of electricity. Reduced consumption is a reason for celebration. But, the problem for cost of electricity is the pricing problem that Robert writes about. Distribution costs, essentially fixed overheads, are paid for as a per-kWh consumption fee. Solar PV reduces kWh drawn, reducing the net income of the utility, even though the utility is doing the same amount of work or more (because PV at the very least necessitates additional monitoring due to the increased variability of supply and demand). To see how it doesn't scale, imagine if everybody except one customer had net-metered solar PV. Adding home grid-tied solar PV raises the per-kWh cost of the distribution infrastructure. It's really that simple.
Net metering's effect is to encourages the adoption of PV by allowing customers to take advantage of the weakness of the current pricing model. It's a subsidy, and it's a bad one because the more PV there is, the bigger the subsidy and incentive will become. It's also bad because the people least able to take advantage would be living in apartments, which are otherwise an efficient living space.
Perhaps a little math would help with this. As you say residential pricing in the U.S. typically consists of two components that aren't billed separately - the demand and the consumption charge. Your argument is that net-metering doesn't scale, because this demand component is fixed and would need to supported by other conventional(non net-metered solar) customers. Your boundary case is that everyone is on solar, but one poor soul. That would suck to be that guy. Fortunately your example isn't really realistic. Residential use makes up approximately 1/3 of total electricity demand in the U.S. Demand charges vary depending on the grid and rate schedule, but they are typically less than 50% of total charges. I'll use 50% as my number, but plugging in your values really doesn't make much difference. So then what if ALL Residential demand was met by net-metered solar(ie 1/3 of total demand)? How much would this increase the bills of the remaining conventional consumers? It would increase the demand charge for those customers by 50% or their total bill by 25%.
So that's the boundary case. If 1/3 of all electricity consumed in the U.S. was produced via net-metered residential solar it would increase the electric bills of the remaining customers by 25%. That's significant, but not crazy high given that it assumes no benefit at all for having distributed generation on the grid.
Still let's try a more reasonable guess at how much net-metered solar increases the rates of the remaining customers. Let's assume 25% of residential is met by net-metered solar. That would increase the bill by 4.5%. Wow, that's a lot less.
So where are we at right now with regards to net-metered solar? According to the EIA its less than one quarter of 1 percent of total or less than 1% of residential which means that net-metering has increased the demand charges by wait for it...
one tenth of one percent.
The math to get this is
d = demand charge as fraction of total
r = residential fraction of total
n = net-metered share of total residential
x = rate increase for remaining customers
x = ((1/ (1-n*r)) -1) * d
x = ((1/(1-1*.333)) -1) *.5 = .25
x = ((1/(1-.25*.333)) -1) *.5 = .045
x = ((1/(1-.0075*.333)) -1) *.5 =.0012
Feel free to check my math.