Honestly, Todd, I don't envy your position. I was lucky enough that the "stealth" Model 3 Performance was available when I got my car, and at the same price as what a guy would pay for a LR AWD with Performance Boost nowadays. So my decision was a no-brainer.
But if I was in your position today...
I'd buy the LR AWD with Performance Boost. I wouldn't be nearly as happy as I am with my P3D-, but since it's no longer an option, the LR AWD with boost is a fairly decent compromise.
But my situation is probably a lot different than yours; if I was ten years younger without 8 levels of my spine fused, I'd go for the full Performance, no questions asked.
The ride quality of the standard Model 3 is pretty firm, IMO. The ride quality of the Performance Model 3 is just way too firm for my old bones. And that one thing alone would keep me from getting the full Performance. When you add in the 20" wheels (not good on the horrible roads in my small town), it becomes a deal breaker... at least for me.
If you don't mind the harsher ride and the bigger wheels, you are getting noticeably better acceleration, better brakes, track mode 2.0 (which I LOVE, btw), tighter suspension, a spoiler and metal pedals (these last two I couldn't care less about). So far, the resale value of the Model 3 Performance has been pretty darn good, too, but who can say what'll happen going forward.
But in the end, only you can weigh the pluses and minuses and decide what's right for you. Regardless which car you get, I think you'll be thrilled with it.