You could be right. Many features of a Tesla are over priced. $1K for multi-coat paint? $5K for PUP with many features people don't want or need? >$100K for a MX?
But specifically for EAP, what other companies have a workable model in their cars (GM, Ford, Renault?)? What is/will be the cost of their autonomous driving option? Have you driven the 3 with EAP? I recommend you test drive a Bolt and compare it for features and price to a model 3, then make your decision.
I WILL BE getting EAP and FSD with my order. $8K for EAP/FSD or $9K for LR? The choice for me and my needs is a no brainer. Although perhaps overpriced right now, the TACC alone is worth it to me. I don't put a price on safety. You can always add EAP and FSD later for $1K premiums, BUT the $1K premium is NOT guaranteed forever. The price will only go up as features are added. Penny wise and pound foolish. If you purchase EAP and FSD now, all new features will be included in the price through software updates, which are being added frequently. Choose carefully.