This isn't a bug. Setting the following distance to "4" doesn't change what the car does at a stoplight. It will always pull up to a few feet behind the stopped vehicle. Also that number doesn't represent car lengths, it represents a time based distance (4 seconds). You're not supposed to be sitting 2 vehicle lengths behind a vehicle at a stoplight....
From the manual:
From the manual:
-- The 1 to 7 following distance "corresponds to a time-based distance that represents how long it takes for Model S, from its current location, to reach the location of the rear bumper of the vehicle ahead.