I don't think you read my posts. This is my first post in this thread:
That is a perfectly fair post. As I explained, my objection came in the context of the posts by green1 and some others, and your message of support for that argumentation (e.g. posts on this page and a few others:
Disappointed with the D unveiling - Page 20). Perhaps that part of the debate gave the wrong impression of your overall opinion - and if it did, then my objection towards your contribution in particular is not warranted.
So, this just to give background to what I was responding to and why. I still think the conversation at the time took a very nasty turn towards the unempathetic in breser's case, where a few kind words and constructive suggestions would have been more in place. As for your part, Canuck, I respect your later messages and don't consider yourself a part of that group of people. Thank you for taking the time to discuss it more.
As you will note, I specifically sparked the discussion about how to do it better.
That is good. My objection at the time was to supporting the line of debate green1 was leading.
I also never suggested that anyone was acting like a child. I commented on the "cookie" example only to state that it was not an ad hominem attack. In fact, I specifically said it may be considered inappropriate, just not ad hominem.
Fair enough - and I agree debating what is ad hominem can certainly be an interesting theoretical exercise. I haven't really formed an opinion in that particular case and I'll spare the thread of it anyway.
For me, it was more about the fact that I felt those feeling slighted deserved more from us than "deal with it" and that I think the community here would benefit from being able to offer more support than that. Such a line goes uncomfortably fast into the fanboy territory on many brand-specific forums and, thus, I personally would like to see both the ups and downs of Tesla ownership discussed equally.
With regard to
Fallacy of relative privation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia - just because some professor gives it an intellectual sounding title and explanation does not mean that living your life by referring to the bigger picture is actually a fallacy.
Of course. We can certainly debate that as much as we can what is an ad hominem. There can be many valid opinions, too. I merely linked to it as a shorthand on my own opinion. I think unrelated comparisons are, well, unrelated and best kept that way. It was not meant as an appeal to authority, which by the way, I would agree is a fallacy too. It is just my opinion that even though there are bigger things in life, that is mostly not relevant in a topic-specific forum and detrimental to our ability to discuss such specific topics. We could never discuss something like stamp collecting on a stamp collecting forum if everything had to be filtered through "what really matters".
I'm really glad my grandfather used "fallacy of relative privation" on me -- and I often use it on my kids. Of course, this is a car forum but we are also all "atoms hurling in space" as that intellectual Sara Silverman said recently in her Emmy acceptance speech -- just trying to make sense of it all. Sometimes for some of us it helps to put things in perspective. In fact, for some of us, it makes life with our cars even better when we do. You and others who call this attitude a "fallacy" are certainly entitled to your opinions, and can just roll your eyes at us, but our comments belong here as much as people with your perspective do -- which by the way, I welcome. You are articulate and make good points. I may disagree with you on some of them but I respect your opinion and I enjoy debating these issues with you. I think we both agree that leaving references to acting like children out of the discussion is important to keeping things civil and enjoyable.
I'm not rolling any eyes on you, just to be clear on that. I see very well where you are coming from, I think, on that particular angle. As I said, nothing wrong with your point of view, quite the contrary. The problem is, I don't think it is as simple as that even for you. We are all subjective creatures. And even though you say you want to live a life of gratitude, there will still quite likely be issues where in reality you might fail at that. And given your particular circumstance, failing to apply that to something might even be perfectly reasonable. Meaning, based on our subjective experiences, life and situations, we are susceptible to feel differently about the same things. What is easy for you, will be hard on others, and vice-versa. What is reasonable for you, even commendable in you case, might be completely unreasonable given someone elses' circumstance and whatever physical, fiscal and/or emotional baggage they are carrying. Put in other ways, what is important to you, will not be important to others - and this greatly affects your two abilities in some particular matter.
This doesn't mean everything someone feels is reasonable. As irrational creatures, lots of out feelings are certainly illogical and unreasonable. They are subjective. But that also means, it is very hard for others to know what our particular point of view is, how easy or hard it might be to change it, and indeed what would be reasonable in our case. This doesn't mean there is no merit in explaining our life experiences to others or offering guidance, but wording and expectations of such would in my opinion be best tempered with understanding that any such guidance is highly subjective and might not be relevant or reasonable to the person it is offered to.
In short, just because something like "forget about your disappointment and be grateful you have a great car" might work for someone in particular, it may absolutely suck as advice to someone else.
In a few
early posts of mine in this thread I offered two suggestions to cope with such a situation: permission to swap car early and a self-imposed information blackout after ordering the car (or even later). I offered them because I know they have been helpful to some people, but with full knowledge - and full disclaimers in tow - that they will not be the right decisions for some others. I'm not asking for anything more from anyone else. Definitely offer your experience and opinion, just keep in mind it is subjective and may not be the right opinion for the recipient.
Also, it doesn't hurt to have a little heart and offer empathy towards the person who is feeling bad. The last thing one needs in that case is being told they are acting like 12 year-old (as you and I agree) and should just get over it. I can't see what good that does to the discussion or the community. I don't have any problem with people disagreeing with those slighted feelings (because not all will feel the same due to their subjective differences), but I do think some crossed the line into a bit of attacks and that was unfortunate.
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I'm tired to even read these posts anymore. All I want to say is you got a P85+ and you're not happy?
I guess the most vocal people in this thread don't even have a P85+, so the relevance of that question seems limited.
I guess the main point here was, how Tesla handled the silent upgrade of standard equipment to, basically, a self-driving car and how that affected the purchase experience of those left out in general, and in particular one person (breser) whose delivery was pushed forward by Tesla, causing him to miss out on what he otherwise would have gotten as per original schedule. Certainly some, in other threads, have been disappointed about obsoleting the P85+, but that's probably a bit of different type of question.
As for me, personally, I'm very happy with my P85. What I really want is the Model X and the Falcon Wings that will make my life miserable, but I want that sweet pain. The P85 is there because once I realized I can never drive ICE again, I was sitting too much on the bus instead. There was no way I would wait for an unknown number of months for that, so I bought a quick dealer-specced lot car (Tesla is sold through dealers here). But it is easier to not care with a stop-gap, than it would be had I planned to keep the Model S for a decade and put in a full range of emotion into its acquisition, only to get a relative let-down at the end.