Something else occurred to me regarding why it's completely reasonable for anybody buying a Model S to expect they are getting fog lights. If you place deposit and then finalize your configuration, you are invited to download the manual for your car.
Notice what's in the Owner's Manual on page 13:
Again I reiterate: I have sent Tesla $5000 on good faith for a car that I can expect based ONLY on what's presented to me. So far all of their collateral, including official documentation and showroom samples, state that I should expect fog lights.
In my TDI Jetta book there were instructions to turn on the foglamps too. No foglamps on my car. It also had oilchange information for the 2.5L I5 gasoling engine, and the 2.0T gas engine also.