To the OP. Stop threatening to "return the car". Go ahead. Go trade it. Returning it really isn't an option. So ahead and stop making empty threats, and just do it. Take a bath on a trade in for a different car. Then, you can be on a different forum, complaining about the ID4, or the Hyundai's. All cars, on every forum, have "massive" issues that owners threaten to return the car over. They get worked on. They get fixed. It takes time. When your on the leading edge of technology, your going to have hiccups. It's part of the process.
So either live with those hiccups, or choose a different path. But threatening to "return" your car in a forum is just, well, pointless. If your gonna trade it...then just go f**king trade it.
Or
Try working WITH Tesla to help them. Note the occurances. Take it in, let them download it. Help yourself, and maybe help others in the same situation. Nothing will get fixed on a forum or chat site.