I am in Quebec too, to. I got the SR+ in 2019 with FSD and both incentives. Apparently now the LR and Y qualifies for both incentives. We recently had a loaner LR and there was a noticeable difference between the SR+ and the LR but the car is for my wife, she doesn't really care about speed but the AWD is definitely something of value.
I understood were you comparing keeping your existing BMW vs Getting a new M3. If you are buying new for sure. Then its a little tougher. Outside of a 30% discount on another new car, I would always pick a regular priced Tesla vs something else.
I'm skeptical about the EV charger bringing up the value of your condo. Renovations generally never bring in more than 50-70% of their cost and something as exclusive as electric car charger, meh.