Definitely don't have the time (or the willpower) to sift through all of the garbage in this thread to find the specific posts and details.
But I've specifically gone over the details several times here. One time the relevant info was snipped by mods, and I reposted it. Some others came in at some point soon after and brought up pretty relevant points that backed up what I'd noted. As expected, buried under noise.
How many have refused updates? Last I saw actual data, the percentage of folks who refuse to update is very very small. I'd estimate less than 50 people have held out on updates based on the fear of losing range, and of those 50 I'd bet none of them would actually be adversely affected (as in, wouldn't lose range) if they were to update.
I don't think Tesla is fine with people not updating, but they have no real way to force updates on people. They've done it to a few (myself included, back in '15) but it's a slippery slope for them and not something many at Tesla have the ability to do.
As for why I think they've done what they've done (range and charging speed losses for some), I went over that in my post above.