Funny, my wife is also not fan of Tesla's so much. She's on the second Model S right now, but I had to convince her. After the first one needed 5 day-long visits at service in the first 3 months after delivery (that was when service still had loaners, there was no flood of Model 3's fixing their production issues, and Tesla didn't try to tell us that yellowing screen after 6 months is our fault for exposing the screen to oxygen) she asked me "you paid how much for this f*!#ng car?!?". While she likes her current Model S, I will have little trouble switching her to another brand - probably another EV unless WA state passes the $0.15 per mile driven EV tax on top of the existing 500 galon equivalent road tax we already pay, then I'm going with the most powerful ICE I can find for me (some 1000hp+ V12 monster probably), and some V6 or V8 Lexus for my wife, but it will be her choice so I don't have to hear how I picked a car for her that requires all that service like I did with Tesla. The extra EV tax btw is attached to COVID relief bill, and argument by our Democrat governor is what WA doesn't have a pollution problem (one of the cleanest air states), but all EV owners are rich and need to pay "their fair share".
Personally I am waiting with high hopes for eTron GT RS. My fallback is Taycan Cross Turismo (the current Taycan trunk is way too small for me, no room in the garage to keep 2 cars just for me like I did before I was married - Porsche 911 for everyday driving and a Toyota 4Runner for shopping/cargo runs). When I saw the rumors of the Model S refresh (no, not the 4 year old thread), I briefly considered short term leasing a Plaid Model S as my 5 year old Model S is not reliable anymore (my reasoning was just refreshed Model S would have high residual values). But, the steering wheel and the AI gear shift solved my dilemma - no way I am letting Tesla software decide whether the car should auto-shift to Drive, Park or Reverse and take responsibility for the consequences. I dislike the steering wheel too, as it will be hell on parallel parking, or it will be drive-by-wire where the steering wheel to wheel deflection ratio depends on speed, none of which I care to deal with. That and I also don't think I want to pay $140K to be an Alpha tester.
Bottom line, thank you Tesla for going so far with the refresh that I am no longer even tempted. The only thing they could have done more is to remove the instrument cluster completely (like Model 3/Y). I am genuinely curious how many they will sell, and that will compare with P85D, P90DL, P100DL sales from the days when they were introduced.