I love the one pedal driving, but Teslas are wasting energy by not capturing energy back during braking.
Actually the Tesla is capturing that energy when you do one-pedal driving. If you're saying that Tesla is wasting the opportunity during a hard brake (when you actually need to use the brake pedal), actually the Tesla is still regenning while you press the brake pedal. It just means you don't need to press the brake as hard because some of the stopping power is still coming from regen.
The key ergonomic difference between regen on brake vs regen on accelerator is that in the latter, you know exactly when you're getting energy back and when you're losing some to friction braking. This is why one-pedal driving is so satisfying. You know that you maxed out your regen efficiency by how little you need to engage the real brake pedal. You have no way of knowing this if regen was tied to the brake, though it shouldn't be hard for a manufacturer to provide either a tactile or visual cue when you've hit the friction brake threshold.