Having heard not word from ESE, I decided this am that there was too much risk, so armed with complete documentation -- emails, receipts, test messages, etc -- I began the dispute/chargeback process with my bank today. It's now in the hands of the security department in my bank. It's a prima facie case of ESE's violation of Visa rules --fully charging for the product before it ships, promising delivery dates that are not realized, etc, etc. It will probably be a slam dunk with the chargeback, especially since I have documentation for everything.
These people are either liars, incompetent, or are making things up as they go. I've put way too much trust in them already and they've violated it at every turn. I suggest everyone who has money at risk with ESE do the same. If there are enough chargebacks they will be prevented from taking credit card payments in the future. IMHO it's what they deserve for their behavior.
When I receive my wheels as ordered, I'll cancel the chargeback. But at this stage I think that's highly unlikely.