I don't doubt that 3 Phase is available on the pole BUT it's not exposed in the UK at the end user level. Obviously, everyone can request an upgrade but I'm interested in deploying mass infrastructure at low cost today, and in the UK that's 1 Phase, and mainland Europe 3 Phase.
Let's be absolutely crystal clear about this...
Any "European" spec Model S needs to have both 3 phase and 1 phase at 20+ kW levels anyway because the prevelent system at the domestic level in Germany, Austria, Netherlands, etc is 3 phase but in France, Spain etc it is single phase. I don't think there have been enough French voices in this discussion to highlight that, but that is my understanding from friends and colleagues who live there. So to lump all of Mainland Europe together is misleading.
In the UK it is not correct to say that three phase doesn't exist at the end user level. It is certainly in most businesses and hotels and (maybe this is luck) but I've seen it in many residential buildings including my current and my last place. It is often used in places with electric heating, small hobby workshops or just big houses. Both my grandparents' places have it, I have an uncle and aunt that use it for electric heating and I noticed the last three holiday rentals that I have been at had it (yes, I know, I do take notice of these things...). In saying that, I am not claiming that is the norm. The incomer to most houses is single phase but I am told the extra cost for three phase in a new build is typically £100, so maybe they should do it as standard.
You would be able to deploy 20kW charging very cheaply in many hotels if the cars could use three phase.
While the UK regulations don't explicitly forbid a high single phase load, it is difficult to cater for and most electricians involved with the HPC project had reservations about installing a 70A single phase device bacause of the phase imbalancing - they asked if there was a three phase variant available. I can't emphasise enough how much easier it would have been to deploy HPCs had they been three phase. Every single hotel I went to had a three phase incoming supply and could have offered 17kW (HPC level) charging from three phases without hassle. We even looked at getting phase converters in a couple of locations at a cost of a couple of thousand, because it would potentially have been worth it.
As an aside, a further advantage of having three phase at a property is that you can go beyond the 3.68 kW (16 A) limit on renewables where you have to start involving the utility and jumping through their hoops. Three phase allows 3x that.