You are assuming the same towers. Not necessarily so.
In the city, you are assuming that the service is on towers, absolutely not.
You are assuming that the service that your phone is getting is coming from the same location that the car's is, probably wrong.
You are assuming that the frequencies that your phone is using it the same as those that the car is using, possibly not.
You are assuming that the equipment that each provider is using is equal in capability, probably not.
And you conclusion that cellphones are far superior to Tesla built-in SIMS is a prime example of just how little you understand cellular operations.
Both your phone and the car use a SIM (or electronic equivalent).
Both your phone and the car use a chipset, probably from Qualcomm to provide service.
Your car, I believe has the capability to do voice calls, just not from the consumer.
The frequencies of the signals (which may be dramatically different dependent on which service that is being used) are notorious for not penetrating things. And ground and concrete are two of those that the signals don't work well through.
I know in the tunnel system in Toronto that there are cellular systems all over the place to provide service in the underground.
And I don't know what "building management" that you talked to, but I guarantee you that there's probably a couple of hundred throughout the buildings downtown.
It's not as if I worked for a cellular company determining where cell sites need to be place.
Want to see the difference in coverage between the providers? I did a quick search and got
Telus/Koodo 3G / 4G / 5G coverage in Toronto, Canada - nPerf.com
The two maps don't look exactly the same, do they?
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