Well, when the car is being driven, I would call this overhead not "Vampire". Vampire is actually the wrong word in both cases, it is usually attributed to the inefficiency of a system that is powered off or otherwise doing no useful work, but continues to have some power consumption. An example is a laptop with an external "brick" power supply, and when the laptop power cord is disconnected from the laptop, but still plugged into the wall it consumes "vampire" load.
In Tesla's case the overhead when driving is definitely acceptable. The overhead when not driving is extremely high for what the system is doing, and what benefits it provides. It's clear that there is massive room for improvement, so this is why it keeps coming up. If you add up all the idle overhead on all Tesla's cars produced so far, it's a substantial amount, and it's definitely not very green to let it continue into the future if it can be fixed.
My 2011 LEAF that the Model S replaced was slightly worse than most ICE cars on idle draw, but it did include an always-on cellular modem, an always on BMS, keyless entry and remote access features very similar to Tesla's. It draws over an order of magnitude less idle overhead! It's 12v battery is similar to Tesla's and it's still working fine with no replacements needed in 4 years. In addition, I had zero quality issues with my LEAF, wheres on my Model S I had a few within hours of pickup. Nissan's answer to the idle draw was to include a small solar panel on the rear hatch to offset some of this load.
Tesla still has a lot of improvement to make, but I support them and I'm confident they'll come around. If they don't, realistically, they will likely not survive. (which would stink!)