Same experience on my AWD 3. I also floor it everywhere all the time, and just had a tire rotation done at about 10k miles. Like you, I'll be shocked to get 20k out of this set.
Was funny -- at the service center, the advisor was like, "let me measure the tread before I write it up, because AWD cars don't usually need rotation." He came back pretty quickly to say that they did need rotating.
Also, FWIW - stock suspension, no uneven wear. Pretty sure this a matter of driving style, plain and simple.