hmmm, do you mean you are not able to change the wiper manually with the stalk? If I need to change it, that's where I do it, but rarely if ever touch it. Is there something different about your car than my 2016 X?
This is the Model 3 subforum, so I suspect I see what's happening here at least with you. If your Model X is from before October 2016, it for sure has a rain sensor. My Model 3 does not. We're discussing the Model 3 auto wiper behavior, and I think you can see from my picture that it leaves quite a lot to be desired.
I don't know if Model X with HW 2.5 or HW3 has a rain sensor or not, but I'd suspect not. We'd have to ask in the other subforums to see if S and X have lost their sensors.