I encourage you to read the threads from the many P85+ and P85D owners who have swapped out of the staggered setup or have moved to 19's. The staggered 21's are not worth it, either from a cosmetic perspective (personal choice) or a performance/cost perspective imho.
If you really have your heart set on it, accept delivery with non staggered 21's and swap with someone who has them who is trying to get out. You'll both be happy.
Yeah I've tried to read every thread on this issue. Dennis's comments earlier in this thread about running the square setup then reverting to the staggered and noticing the improvement in handling was extremely helpful.
To me the square setup has three issues. First, aesthetics, which admittedly is very personal. To me the car just does not look nearly as good with the skinnier 245 rear section tires. I personally couldn't live with that look and I'm also not a huge aftermarket wheel guy either (unless I'm going with track wheels, which I'm obviously not going to need with this car) so that is not a solution for me.
Secondly, I've never been a huge fan of Continental tires. I've had them on Porsches and BMWs I've owned in the past and I've always ditched them ASAP, usually for Michelins. Add the fact that they are marketed as "silent," which I can't help but believe means a compromise in some other area (probably weight and handling). I'm also not that concerned about tire wear - my daily drivers are usually BMW M cars and I'm lucky to get 5,000 miles out of a set of rears on those.
Finally, while I may be wrong on this, I cannot believe that the square setup is the optimal setup for handling on this car, given the 50/50 weight bias. I know of no other performance car (either RWD or AWD) that comes with a square setup. I'm guessing that Tesla has made this switch to streamline the supply chain, allow for tire rotation and try to make the ride quieter. That's fine, and it probably works better for most owners, but I'm one of those outliers who doesn't care that much about tire wear or tire rotation and can live with a bit more noise, but does definitely care about optimal handling.
My DS came up with a solution. I'm going to order the car with the basic 19" and pay my service center directly for the staggered wheels/tires and they will put them on when my car arrives. While this ends up being about $1,700 more than if they were available from Tesla when ordering the car, it guarantees that I get the staggered setup and I'll probably be able to unload the 19"s with tires for about $1,000, so it only ends up being about $700 or so extra, which is worth it in my book.