The "driver inattention detector" is not adjustable. I'm someone who has countless times knocked the AP out by jerking, and sometimes failed to notice. That's a barrel of laughs when you're expecting correction as you're heading for the proverbial ditch.
I've tried all practical hand positions on the wheel, for me none prevent nags. I don't want to disable the nag, what I want is for small corrections from my hand to satisfy the system. My hand rests around the 3:00 position, elbow on the console. A small 3-4 oz weight on the back of the right spoke, held on with a velcro strap, is what I wrap my fingers around. When a nag does occur, it only takes a tiny motion to clear it. Mission accomplished.
Using heavier weights is a very bad idea because 1) it's unnecessary, 2) you don't want to defeat what is after all a reasonable safety interlock, even though it's not ideally implemented and 3) with a heavier weight the drag to the right becomes annoying in Manual driving.
Now I think I'll go hide, expecting Puritan and L&O fire.
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