Now now, let's tone it down a bit.
They aren't stealing anything. You are not forced to do software updates. If you want v7.1 or v8.0, you also get nags with it. If you don't, you can keep your car as is (as long as you never need service, etc.). They might be tilting the favor in their direction a lot, but no is stealing it, or forcing you to turn off functionality.
If Tesla pushed a release to actually force nags on to you, like they did by forcing people in (China? Australia? I forget) to disable AP due to government regulations, that would be different.
“Those who give up liberty for security deserve neither.” seems to be green1's "larger picture" viewpoint, and the Tesla defenders larger picture viewpoint is "it's not such a big deal, just keep innovating"