Ok, this is what I've learned tonight from the Model S event at the factory.
As you might have seen in other threads there is going to be a new, Tesla-only connector for charging a Model S, no standard J1772 or "Mennekes" connector.
I've poked around a bit about the three-phase charging and it will NOT be available at this time. I stressed it enough to the power-train designer (forgot his name) that as a European lack of three-phase could really be a dealbreaker.
I absolutely love the Model S! It's a gorgeous vehicle with so many goodies and stuff, I really, really, really like it, but the lack of 3-phase gave the event a bit of a bad taste for me (personally).
The feeling I got is that Tesla still believes in their own propriety connector and charging at home. The argument for not having 3-phase support in the car was "The battery is so big, you don't need to charge that much", rubbish to me..
Anyway, the connector they've come up with will handle AC and DC over the same connector and pins, they said nothing currently available could do that. I pointed him to Mennekes and he turned away from that.
I tried to stress him that lacking three-phase you'll be limited to 16A (80%) or 32A (20%) most of the time. With that huge 90kWh battery that simply sucks. Charging times of about 15 hours on 32A.
I didn't get a promise from him, but after talking for a while he said "We'll come up with something that works, we have more then a year to go", we shook hands that and I left.
The current status is that the Model S does currently not have 3-phase support, it does however support DC. With a converter it should be able to connect to CHaDEMO chargers.
They will look into the three-phase charging again and come up with something. I told him it should be portable, not a small DC charger for home, since all European charging stations have three-phase.
I'm really thinking about writing a good letter to Tesla which we should all sign to emphasize it again to them: Europeans don't want three-phase charging, they NEED it
Other than that, I really do like the Model S, what a beautiful car!