I do believe that Tesla has been very poor at communicating with existing and prospective owners and I fully understand complaints about how they handle distribution of insider information.
However, just because your Model S Battery is not at the absolute leading edge, doesn't make it obsolete. The leading edge in tech always changes every 6-12 months. A Model S that can only charge up to 90 kW is still a very advanced and useful device. Let's not loose sight of that and appreciate what we have, rather than what we have not. Every Tesla on the road, including the Roadsters, are still a marvel of engineering and complaining about their limitations sounds to many like the person with the second biggest yacht in the world complaining that their boat is too small.
I totally agree Teslas communication on this issue is an issue. I even agree that for some the combination of firmware and battery type mean there issn't clear documentation of what speed charging they can expect at a supercharger. The whole supercharger situation is immature and has room for improved documentation.
With that in mind I still like to put the charging speed in context.
1.44 KW Nissan Leaf on 120v / 12a
3.84 KW Nissan Leaf on 240v using evse upgrade 16a (2011 and 2012)
4.8 KW Nissan Leaf on 240v using evse upgrade 20a (2013 and 2014)
6 KW Nissan Leaf with "6.6 KW charger" on a 27a or higher j1772 charger.
9.6 KW Tesla Model S on UMC 240v 40a
20 KW Tesla Model S with dual chargers on a HPWC
44 KW Nissan Leaf quick charge port (Chademo)
0-90KW if you are on a super charger and are sharing with the car in another spot and/or have enough charge that your charging rate has been decreased
up to 90 KW max Tesla Model S 85 with older battery on newer supercharger when you are the only one there
up to 105 KW max Tesla Model S 60 with newer battery on newer supercharger when you are the only one there
up to 120 KW Tesla Model S 85 with newer battery on newer supercharger when you are the only one there
So yeah if you pull up to to a deserted super charger with an empty battery and you "only" get 90 KW you are still charging 4.5 times faster than a HPWC with dual chargers or 9 times faster than UMC/HPWC on a single charger.
You would also be charging twice as fast as a Nissan Leaf with "quick charge port" Chademo and would still have vastly superior range at the end of even a 30 minute charge at 90 KW. Oh and did I mention you'd have a nicer looking, more comfortable car to use in the process?