FWIW Ive set mine @ 55% instead of 80%/90% for my general around town stuff after looking into this area deeply as a personal decision on general use for my use cases.
Off topic but...
Welcome to the SoC55 club . I also charge to 55% for day to day.
If need 100% charge to 100% and I have no qualms to drain to zero if required. There is about a 4% reserve below zero in any case assuming BMS accurate
Even on long trips it is becoming clearer using the navigation app that charging to 100% if often not necessary - especially with Dc chargers along the route.
Charge at home makes life so much easier.
The biggest lesson Ive learnt about EV driving is to keep it simple, don't overcomplicate it.
Re software updates:
I have a general rule of thumb to always not be the first with updating software - other people can be the guinea pig experiment. @paulp indicated that the advanced/standard update setting does nothing. So in that case I have created a new rule of thumb to maybe wait 1 week after an update becomes available (or wait until I'm sick of Tesla reminding me there is an update).