With my moderator hat on, can we just try and keep the discussion civil otherwise I'll end up spending my evening moving posts to the snippiness area
And with the hat off.... (and at the risk of needing to move my own post later!!)...
Cars are a mixture of attributes, some good, some bad. My frustration is partly "Tesla is more high tech than anything out there..." which is the claim by some and yet some basics don't work, and the "4 years of updates" can equally be seen as "4 years of finishing what should have worked 4 years ago". There is so much relatively basic technology that Tesla do not have compared to others - meaningful and accurate speed limit recognition in all situations, adaptive headlights as mentioned, surround parking view despite having all those cameras, head up display, rear cross traffic safety warnings, refusing to lock or allow the boot to close if the key is in the car, the foot wave and the boot opens thing, carplay, safety camera alerts... I value these things more than TikTok and Disney+because they're things that I'd use. If I spent hours charging with kids then I might value things differently.
I also don't get the "fancy headlights are an option on other cars" argument because so what? Does that excuse the fact Tesla don't have them on the most technically advanced car you can buy? Tesla have virtually no options, but options aren't a bad thing. If the Model 3 was available for £2k less without the glass roof I'd have £2k more in my pocket. And before we're too critical of the oposition pricing, Tesla charge £1500 for a wheel upgrade, on the BMW i4 you can pay £1350 and also get bigger brakes, improved cooling, wider rear wheel arches etc. thrown in. EAP is £3,400. BMW charge £1,900 for parking, dashcam, driver assist, lane change, surround view etc. One approach isn't better than another, they're just different.
As it happens, yesterday the autowipers were the best they've been for me on the Tesla, but my confidence is still low and I would not be surprised if the next release made them worse - and that is a real sense of frustration. At least our BMW has the same faults, missing features and idiosyncracies that it had last week, and the buttons are in the same place.