The difference is one of us is actually using logical reasoning, the other is not. I'll leave it as an exercise to the reader to determine which is which.
There is a huge difference between the brakes failing and something related to autopilot failing. (First, it's worth noting that we don't even know if this had anything to do with autopilot at all, since the OP admits they may have disengaged it.)
In this case, autopilot did not fail. Have you read the manual and all of the caveats surrounding the functions of autopilot and TACC? I suspect you have not. It specifically states its limitations and that it can not and is not designed to be relied on to control the vehicle in all circumstances.
Now, if you read that same manual and find me a caveat that states limitations on where the brakes will not attempt to stop the car when pressed, let me know. Until then, the failure of these two things are not comparable.
And again, the driver is in complete control of the vehicle at all times. If the driver lets their car run into a semi and kill their family, how is that any different than a driver of a Honda Civic doing the same thing with regular cruise control? The driver is still in complete control. It amazes me to no end that people are still trying to argue that this is not the case. Until my car has it's own driver's license, I'm the driver.
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I have to take this a bit further and again point out that if the driver is using autopilot as instructed and the car attempts to steer somewhere it shouldn't the driver's hands should be right there and not permit it. So the "steering under a semi" nonsense is nonsense.
Just because no one keeps their hands on the wheel doesn't mean this is how it's supposed to be used, and doesn't abdicate responsibility.
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If I have autosteer/TACC engaged and...
I find a wire terminal I uncover on the car says "DANGER HIGH VOLTAGE", and I touch it after clearly being advised of the danger and die, it's Tesla's fault, right, because autopilot!
I get a flat tire and it makes it hard to control the car such that I drive off a cliff.... that's Tesla's fault, right, because autopilot!
I jerk the wheel to the side with my leg while fidgeting, drive off a cliff, and die... that's Tesla's fault, right, because autopilot!??!
I run over a pedestrian and kill them... that's Tesla's fault, right, because AUTOPILOT?!
I see that the car can't steer properly due to pool lane markings, and I let it, and we run off the road, fall down a cliff, smash into a small village and kill 47 people after ironically landing on top of a large oil tank... that's Tesla's fault, right, BECAUSE AUTOPILOT?!
I hit a deer... that's Tesla's fault, right, BECAUSE AUTOPILOT?!
I run over my dog... that's Tesla's fault, right, BECAUSE AUTOPILOT?!
Obviously I can go on, but I hope the sarcasm is dripping from this post and how ridiculous it sounds to blame autopilot for basically anything. It's not for replacing the driver. Just like cruise control, just like ACC, etc etc etc and any other feature. YOU'RE STILL THE DRIVER.